Well someone else in my family managed to do something "amazing" and "wonderful" before I have even accomplished something that can be seen as normal. First my sister gets engaged, and I have to hear about that for months. Nothing but pictures of her ring and the couple of them together flashing said ring all over facebook. After that died down my brother, who can do no wrong, is proving himself to be even more amazing in the eyes of anyone looking. He has decided to move back to Colorado after graduating college. This of course has elated Tom and he will be on cloud nine throwing himself at the feet of his only God given son. I will be forgotten. Anyone that wants to debate me on that, can ask any of my very good friends that have seen this happen any year that Bryan comes to visit. I'm serious. It's like he's Jesus and the whole state is made of water.
In the middle of all this my step sister finally popped out her baby. The baby that nearly cut my dad's visit to see me short, because her mother is a "hover mom." Now today I have seen no less than four pictures and two posts about the baby, then the baby and her mom, and then the three generations together AND THEN...the four generations together. Nothing but "OMG she's so great." "What a miracle." "She's amazing" "She's fantastic, what a good mom."(and no response to my personal text message directly to my step mom saying congrats I might add) On and on and on... I can hear the rungs cracking just before they give way and send me sliding down to the bottom of the ladder.
I don't want to sound like I'm whining, but I know that I am. I am just so tired of everyone getting all the epic attention. Everyone else is worth more than I am. Everyone else has made something of themselves that my family can be proud of. I have done nothing noteworthy. I get no attention. I'm struggling for money, in a dead end job, unable to get a new one no matter how many interviews I go to, I don't even own a house. How did I fall so far behind? I'm not even sure. What bothers me most I suppose is that the people getting the attention are the ones that don't need it. They don't need help, they don't need encouragement. I do. I need to know that while sitting here fighting a battle no one even notices, that I'm brave and I am still doing a good job. I need to know I'm not a bad person and that I'm worth the love and attention that everyone else seems to get so readily. I'm tired of holding it together just long enough to get to a quiet moment by myself and then realize how run down, scared and alone I feel. That's when I cry. Just because I don't let anyone see it, doesn't mean it doesn't happen. Is that what strength is? I doubt it. I don't feel strong.
I'm not perfect, they are. Does that make me any less worthy of your praise or love?